It’s the one thing we can always count on.
And the one thing we tend to resist the most.
Which is kind of a funny dichotomy.
How many of us have said some phrase akin to “as soon as things calm down I will…”
And the reality is things never calm down. Which in turn means you typically never will do whatever it is that you are waiting to do “when things calm down.”
It odd that as humans we seem to be in search of some sort of balance, some sort of life situation where things feel steady, and we feel like we have a handle on what is going on.
But it never happens.
But when you really tease it apart change is the engine behind everything that is great about living, of course we fear it but the best things that have ever happened to me were a result of monumental changes.
The change from child to adult.
The change from single guy to married guy.
The change from no kids to being a Dad.
The change from sales agent to broker.
The change from employee to self employed.
The change from building someone else’s company to building my own.
The change from self employed to entrepreneur (oh, there is a huge difference between the two)
The change from out of shape fat guy to in shape not so fat guy.
The change from self absorbed narcissist to empath.
The change from “feather on the wind” to “becoming the wind.”
These were all changes, and they were all uncomfortable and terrifying changes, and I could tell you the story of each one, and how it has impacted my life for the better. But the thing they all have in common is that they are changes.
Even the changes that I didn’t have a say in.
Even the changes that hurt me in ways I never thought were possible.
Those changes impacted my life for the better.
People I have lost…
Businesses that didn’t work out…
Relationships that fell apart…
All of these things in the moment felt like the worst possible thing. In the moment I would have given anything to roll back the clock and make those things not happen.
In retrospect, those changes… Those changes had more impact on me than anything else ever could have. Those changes I feared and hated are the ones that shaped me into the person I am today.
And if I look back at my life, all the lowest moments, all the things that made me want to throw in the towel are the things that stayed the same.
And that’s the funny dichotomy.
We fear change.
But we need it to be happy.
We need it to be fulfilled.
We need it to reach any potential that we have.
At the end of the day we have to embrace change, we have to understand that there never has been and there never will be some ideal state where everything is predictable, and life feels certain and foreseeable day after day wrapped in a tidy box with a fancy bow.
That’s what they call death.
And I’d rather not die while I am still alive.