Expectations. They are a tricky mistress. You go through your whole life building them. This is how my life is going to look, this is how my relationships are going to pan out, this is how my family is going to look, this is how my health is going to look. And we get horrifically frustrated […]


Change… It’s the one thing we can always count on. And the one thing we tend to resist the most. Which is kind of a funny dichotomy. How many of us have said some phrase akin to “as soon as things calm down I will…” And the reality is things never calm down. Which in turn […]

The Dark

In our house we have all the categories of kids. The older two are the “bigs.” The younger two are the “littles” Other categories include the “middles,” the “ends” the “boys and the “girls.” And those categories take care of all the possible pairings of 2 of the four kids. At bedtime we have different rules […]

18 Years

I look back at January 23rd 2002 and I know exactly how I felt that morning. I was nervous as hell.  I was stuck in traffic. I was tapping the steering wheel anxiously. I was listening to Tom Jobim play Desafinado. And I had forgotten the ring. My whole life I have tried to not be […]

Do The Right Thing

Do the right thing. That’s the secret. If I could only teach my people one thing that would contribute most to their success in real estate those four words would be what I would say. And if they went out into the world of real estate armed only with that advice I feel like their success […]


Some Monday Musings You may already know that I don’t really do resolutions for the new year, one of the reasons for this is I still feel like a huge chunk of marble, and that I am still chipping away little by little to get past the fear demons that inhabit my brain. Maybe once the […]

Three Words

There is an old and stupid joke. A joke exclusively told at weddings. Inevitably the father of the bride or the groom will speak, and he will say something like, “in our 26 years of marriage I learned that there are three words that will help you have a long and happy marriage, three words that […]

40% In The Tank

I take on a lot. At least it seems that way to me, and the hardest part isn’t that I get burned out on the things I already have going on.  That would be easy to address. The problem is I can’t figure out how to do all the things I want to do. It does […]


Marketing is stupid. Maybe I should clarify. The way most businesses go about marketing is stupid… …here is why. When was the last time you bought something because you saw it on a billboard? When was the last time you bought something because of a clever commercial? When was the last time you bought something because […]


I’m afraid of looking like an idiot. Maybe not everyone is this way, but more than anything in a social context I fear people thinking I am stupid. Maybe it’s the knowitall that lives in my psyche. Maybe everyone is this way but doesn’t admit it. Or maybe, just maybe it’s an artifact of my anxiety. […]